Carolina QuotesA man provides leadership. A man provides direction, caution, and advice to others. A man provides emotional and spiritual support. A man provides stability and order. A man provides companionship and good company. A man provides identity. A man provides an example. All of these things require personal sacrifices of time, dedication, and effort. And from where does the strength and inspiration for that come? Or, in other words, what is worth living for, sacrificing for, and even dying for?
William G. Boykin Carolinian
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p. 5
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- Man to Man: Rediscovering Masculinity in a Challenging World (2020)
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- 2020
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- p. 5
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“A man provides leadership. A man provides direction, caution…” William G. Boykin. Carolina Quotes, record CQ-C486815E18. https://carolinaquotes.com/quote/c486815e18
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